No matter what a woman does, no matter how much she leads on a man, if she says no and he doesn't stop then it's entirely his fault. No woman who said no, or who didn't say no because she feared for her safety, should ever feel guilty about being raped. She should realize that she doesn't share in the blame because, contrary to modern feminism, men are people too and as such they can stop; if they don't it's their choice which makes the rape entirely their fault.
For some bizarre reason some women also feel ashamed that they were raped. To see how wrong that is imagine if a man were to feel ashamed because he was mugged by a thief with a gun. A woman who has been forced into having sex has done nothing to be ashamed of. While if they'd been behaving poorly-- dressing immodestly, going to a strangers hotel room, etc-- they should feel bad about that but they should not feel bad about a man forcing them into doing something they don't want to do.
A woman can dress like a prostitute, get semi-drunk, meet a strange man in a bar and go back to his room, and still have absolutely no responsibility for being raped if she said no at some point. Men can stop and being aroused does not remove men's mental faculties or their responsibilities towards women.
If we as a society say that the fathers of sexually molested girls have to restrain themselves from physically attacking the monsters who assaulted their daughters we can expect men who are aroused to stop when they are told no.
Aside from the suffering women go through because they falsely believe that somehow they are at least partially responsible for being raped or that they should be ashamed for being raped the silence that all too often results from those feelings leads to more women suffering.
For example there are now two women who have accused Democrat Lt. Governor Fairfax of rape. One accusation is from college and one is from 2004. If either of those women had come forth at the time Fairfax wouldn't be in a position of power today. If the woman who was raped in college had come forward the woman who he raped in 2004 may not have been raped.
We need to make it so that women don't think that the best solution is to just forget about it.
We need to change the perception of rape in America and to do so we have to first eliminate the left's distortion of rape. There's a "feminist" site that says that if a woman says yes to sex because she's afraid her boyfriend will get mopey if she says no it's rape. Unless a woman is threatened or in fear of her physical safety if she says yes the resulting sex can't be rape because men can't read women's minds. On the other hand the idea that when a woman says no she really means yes isn't something men can hide behind precisely because men can't read women's minds.
One of the great things about Catholic morality is that if women only have sex with their husbands, and husbands with their wives, there will be a whole lot less confusion and men won't be able to rationalize that when their wife is saying no she really means yes.
Once we get back to the sane definition of rape--either the woman says no or she is being credibly threatened with physical harm--we need to work to convince women that their first obligation to themselves and to others is to report the assault. Unless a woman is regularly accusing men of rape we should take her accusation seriously though we shouldn't simply presume she's not lying.
In he said she said cases where there is no evidence we need to make sure that the woman is told that she did the right thing by reporting it even if charges can't be filed. Only if a woman has a clear history of false accusations should she be made to feel bad.
This is another big advantage of Catholic morality. If unmarried women live chaste lives and don't regularly consent to sex when they claim to be raped and the man says it's consensual there is support for the woman's claim. We're seeing a variant of this in the case of one of Fairfax's accusers. A boyfriend of the woman says that she would have never willingly performed the sex act that Fairfax claimed she did consensually because of how she had been sexually abused in her youth. Similarly a woman who has a clear record of not engaging in casual sex is more credible when she says she was raped than a woman who has a clear record of engaging in casual sex. That's not because promiscuous women can't be raped--they most certainly can--but that in a he said she said situation where the man says the woman said yes it's less likely that a woman who never says yes did say yes than that a woman who often says yes did say yes all other factors being equal.
It's time that we removed the stigma women feel when they've been raped. It's time to end the silence that has led to sexual predators being able to get away with rape.
If every woman who has been raped comes forth even if in individual he said she said cases the rapist can't be prosecuted the chances are he will eventually be caught increase dramatically.
For example in the Fairfax case if the woman had reported the rape in college even if nothing could be done due to a lack of evidence when the second woman was raped in 2004 there would have been a police record of the first charge. As the idol of the Left, Joseph Stalin, said "Quantity has a quality all its own". In a he said she said case where the he has been accused previously of rape the credibility of the latest woman's claim is significantly increased.
While the Left likes to portray conservatives as being anti-woman the vast majority of the #MeToo cases have been men of a left wing persuasion. Perhaps that's why the left is unwilling to attack the social stigma some women feel when they've been raped. That means it's up to conservatives to change society so that women don't feel guilty or ashamed if they're raped.
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