One of the aspects of the Big Lie that Hollywood is foisting on America is that if a guy asks a woman to live with him that's a great thing that the woman should be happy about.
The problem is that living together is just a way for a man to get what he wants without having to actually commit to the woman.
Sex is a much riskier business for women not just because STDs can render them unable to ever have children but because they, unlike men, can get pregnant. Even if they choose to eliminate their unborn daughter with extreme prejudice an abortion is a significant medical procedure with unpleasant side effects not to mention the psychological trauma that arises from a woman going against what 4,000,000,000 years of evolution have made her into.
From a purely evolutionary perspective it's clear that men who stand by pregnant women were better mates since a pregnant woman on her own was less likely to survive. Hence evolution, or God, has made women people who want a committed spouse. On the other hand men can send their genes to the future by simply impregnating as many woman as possible and hoping that some of their children are born.
Hence there is tension between men's acceptance of casual sex because they invest little in sex and women's desire for committed relationships because they risk a much larger commitment due to pregnancies.
Historically marriage was seen as a great advance in women's rights because it meant that her spouse had committed to her for life, for better or for worse, and part of that would be standing by her if she became pregnant. That's why Christianity condemned divorce; women tend to be the losers if men can dump their wives when they stop looking good.
Yet couples who live together haven't made any commitment and many women have learned that shacking up doesn't provide them with security if they should happen to become pregnant.
Studies have shown that living together before marriage more than doubles the chances that the couple will eventually divorce which means that living together as a stepping stone to marriage is a bad idea, though of course in the Hollywood Big Lie that's never mentioned.
Basically the portrayal of shacking up as a great thing is advocating for men at the expense of women and that's true of almost all of the Big Lies about hedonism that Hollywood is peddling.
In real life women constantly bemoan men's unwillingness to commit but in movies and TV women are shown being ecstatic about a man agree to have sex with them but unwilling to actually commit to them.
The Hollywood Big Lie is shaped by men like Weinstein or the show runner on NCIS: New Orleans who project their lusts as being good for society. You don't find many good faithful family men, or women, who have stuck with one spouse through thick and thin deciding what message Hollywood will be trying to sell the American people.
Some very smart person once said that evil can only be made to look good in fiction. That's because in fiction the adverse side effects and the long term problems associated with evil can be ignored. Hollywood is using that to lie to you about what life should be like; don't fall for it.
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